spent some time reading through this report churned out by eHarmony.com.. realised how detailed and lengthy this is.. My gosh! think whoever can be my best match in life must be a superwoman man.. haha =)
No person can be fully described or defined by a few short sentences. However, here are several of the most important characteristics revealed by your eHarmony Compatibility Profile that you should keep in mind as you search for your ideal mate:
Some of your ideal mate's strongest personality characteristics are:
She tends to take charge when things need to get done.
She enjoys doing things well and takes pride in what she does.
She generally does her best to be honest in all situations, even when it can be difficult.
She is very interested in knowing and learning about certain things.
Some important qualities that your ideal partner brings to the relationship are:
She loves to spend time catching up with friends.
Her easy conversational manner makes her a great companion.
She tends to be generous and supportive of her friends.
She sometimes enjoys sharing a great joke or humorous movie with friends.
Important goals and values for your ideal mate in a relationship are:
She needs to feel that she is helping others.
Working to give something back into the community is important to her.
Sharing parenting values and ideas is important to her.
She will be able to share your core spiritual beliefs.
Social Orientation describes how much of your behavior is motivated by the desire to get along with and be liked by other people, as well as how much is driven by the desire to be seen as an effective problem solver who is self sufficient. People with a strong External Orientation place a high value on communicating their thoughts and feelings with other people. People with a strong Internal Orientation place a high value on individual effectiveness, competence and autonomy. The dimensions that we assess as part of your Social Orientation are Conflict Management, Character, Vitality and Security, Communication Style, Kindness and Autonomy.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Communication: You will have the best relationship with a woman who believes easy conversation is essential to a good relationship. She's comfortable speaking her mind, but she also sees the importance of listening to someone else's point of view. Friends and family appreciate her ability to listen and speak with candor.
Kindness: Your ideal mate goes out of her way to do nice things for you. She's the kind of person who will let you know she cares, whether it's surprising you with baseball tickets or making you your favorite meal. She won't take you for granted. She wants to be there for you when you have a problem.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Character: Your ideal mate is a woman who doesn't pretend to be perfect. She does, however, make a sincere effort to relate to other people. She's the type of person who's nice but who is by no means a saint. She will appreciate your ability to get along with others but won't expect you to always put the needs of others before your own.
Autonomy: You will be best matched with someone who wants to know all of the important things about your past. She'll be equally interested in living in the present and planning a future. She won't need to know every detail about your life or every thought that crosses your mind. She's the kind of person who sees herself as part of a couple but still maintains her independence and identity.
Vitality and Security: You need a woman who is honest and reliable. She has a good understanding of what it takes to make a relationship work over the long haul. She wants to build a relationship that will last but doesn't need you for constant support.
Conflict Resolution: You'll be happiest with a woman who tries to avoid conflict altogether. When she does have a disagreement, she tries to keep the peace instead of adding fuel to the fire. Resolving the argument is generally more important to her than being right, but she will stand up for herself.
The Extraversion scale assesses how you feel when you are around people. Extroverts are generally comfortable at the center of attention. They rarely feel a need for "alone time" and are almost always eager to meet new people. Introverts, on the other hand, avoid the spotlight when they can, approach many social gatherings with hesitation, and relish time spent with good friends whom they know well. While most people exhibit a mix of Introvert and Extrovert qualities based on what kind of social situation they are in, people who are strongly Extroverted often place the largest value on having many friends and making new friends easily. In contrast, people who are strongly Introverted generally place the highest value on having a few very deep and meaningful friendships. The dimensions of your profile which are associated with Extraversion are Emotional Energy, Sociability, Adaptability, Humor, Romantic Passion and Dominance.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Adaptability: Your ideal mate is someone who can think outside the box when faced with a problem. She's able to think of creative ways to solve a problem or resolve an argument. She tries to approach challenges with an open mind so that she's not tied to conventional solutions. Friends generally describe her as the kind of person who is calm in a crisis.
Romantic Passion: Your ideal mate is a sensual person who enjoys occasional romantic gestures like a night of soft music, candles and good conversation. But she doesn't overemphasize romance or put unrealistic expectations on her partner. She knows there are more important things in a relationship.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Emotional Energy: You'll be happiest with a woman who's outgoing and vivacious but doesn't need to always be on the move. She'd generally rather do something than talk about it, whether it's a new hobby or a project at work.
Dominance: You are best suited to someone who doesn't take competition to extremes. She likes to win but doesn't need to do so at all costs. She is aggressive when the situation warrants it, such as when vying for a promotion or playing tennis in front of a crowd, but can accept a loss with grace.
Sociability: You'll be happiest with a woman who likes to spend time with old friends and make new ones. She might not always be the first to strike up a conversation with a stranger, but she is rarely tongue-tied once the conversation is underway. At parties, she's the type of person who isn't afraid to venture outside her group of friends.
Humor: Your ideal mate is the kind of woman who is funny and interesting. Sometimes, she likes telling jokes and making people laugh with things like one-liners or satirical observations about friends and family. But she doesn't need to be a constant one-woman show.
Openness refers to a person's willingness to experience new and creative ideas. People who score low on Openness tend to place a high value on tradition and belonging to a group. People who score high on Openness tend to place a high value on imagination and individualism. Extreme scores on Openness also often distinguish between people who enjoy thinking in symbols and abstractions to people who prefer ideas which are clear and concrete. The dimensions of your profile that we consider as part of Openness are Artistic Passion, Curiosity and Intellect.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Curiosity: You will be well matched with a woman who likes to understand the world around her. She's generally inquisitive and knowledgeable about subjects that pertain to her life, whether she's a politics junkie or a baseball fan. If she's not interested in an issue, she probably won't feel compelled to read up on it just to expand her knowledge.
Artistic Passion: You are best suited to someone who wants art and culture in her life. She probably enjoys attending events and performances, such as the theater, poetry readings and art exhibitions. Friends see her as the kind of person who needs regular exposure to the arts in order to be happy.
Intellect: Your ideal mate is knowledgeable and well-read. She has varied interests but isn't driven to be an expert on everything. She values education but isn't consumed by it. She doesn't need to be the smartest person in the room.
Physicality separates people who enjoy being physically energetic and active from those who are uncomfortable or dislike engaging in sports or strenuous activity. Some people push life to the limit, scaling mountains or competing in triathlons. People with a less demanding sense of Physicality enjoy looking at mountains more than climbing them. The dimensions of your profile which compose the most important aspects of your Physicality are Appearance, Physical Energy and Sexual Passion.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Physical Energy: You are most compatible with someone who may have a hard time sitting still. She's the kind of person who's energetic and active, whether she's heading out for a jog or a mountain biking trek. She generally feels best at the end of a day if she's gotten some kind of exercise.
Sexual Passion: Your ideal companion is looking for the surge of physical excitement that comes with falling in love. When she's with her partner, she expects a physical connection that goes beyond compatible personalities and interests. Physical chemistry isn't her only need, or even her main one, but she does want to feel a strong desire for her partner.
Appearance: You are most compatible with a woman who wants to look good but doesn't obsess over it. She will appreciate the time and effort you put into your appearance and be happy with the end result. Ultimately, however, she is more concerned with who you are than what you look like.
Goal Orientation refers to the drive to plan for the future versus the urge to live in the moment. People who score low on Goal Orientation are generally spontaneous and free spirited. They are likely to act on their first impulse and worry about the consequences afterwards and place a high value on being clever and lucky. People who score high on Goal Orientation, on the other hand, are more driven to think about future consequences before acting, place a high value on being wise and cautious, and like to always put their best foot forward. The dimensions of your profile that relate to your Goal Orientation are Industry, Ambition, Organization and Education.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Organization: Your ideal mate is reliable. She isn't the type of person who constantly changes her mind. Her thoughts and her life are well put together. She is disciplined and believes in long-term planning.
Industry: You are best suited to a woman who likes to stay busy. You will find it hard to relate to anyone who is lazy, unproductive or inefficient. Your ideal mate is someone who places a high value on pulling her own weight, whether it's a project at work or her share of household chores.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Ambition: Your ideal mate is the kind of person who strives to be the best at what she does. She understands your desire to be recognized for your accomplishments. But she won't turn her quest for success into something that will dominate her life. Things like family, friends and time to herself are important to her.
Education: Your ideal mate is a woman who wants her partner to be her intellectual equal. She's passionate about ideas, so she is looking for someone who is interested in discussing things like religion, politics, ethics or science. If a man is unable to converse intellectually, she generally loses interest.
While day-to-day events play a major role in our feelings, there are deep-seated patterns of emotion that underlie our personality and stretch across the span of our lives. These patterns are considered your Emotional Temperament. People who score high on Emotional Temperament are generally upbeat about life and are slow to get upset in the face of minor setbacks or disappointments. People who score low on Emotional Temperament are more likely to experience feelings such as anxiety, anger and depression on a regular basis. The dimensions of your profile that compose your Emotional Temperament are Mood Management, Self-Concept, Emotional Status, Anger Management and Obstreperousness.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Mood Management: You will be most satisfied with a woman who avoids letting her bad moods affect others. When she is feeling down, she's considerate of others by avoiding them or being careful not to be rude. Even when she's having a bad day, she isn't overly sensitive.
Self-Concept: Your ideal match is someone who won't change herself just to fit in. She believes in herself and doesn't look to others for approval. Other people see her as self-assured and well adjusted.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Emotional Status: You are best suited to a woman who is generally happy and hopeful for the future. There are things in her life she'd like to improve, but she generally has faith that she'll attain her goals. She's not the type of person to overreact when she has a problem. Friends see her as someone who tries to focus on the positive.
Obstreperousness: Your ideal mate is someone who isn't afraid to stand up for her opinions, but doesn't always feel the need to do so. You need someone who has beliefs and confidence strong enough to match your own. However, you will not do well with someone who needs to dominate every conversation and win every argument. You will do best with someone who knows when to speak her mind, and when to just go along with the people around her.
Anger Management: You will be happiest with a woman who controls her temper. Generally speaking, she has a long fuse. When she does get mad, she doesn't take it out on others or blame them for her frustration.
Many significant ingredients, like upbringing, family goals and spirituality combine to form a person's values and beliefs. Whatever form they take, your values are one of the most powerful determinants of your behavior. Values also play a large role in who we feel comfortable being around and who we find attractive. Dissimilarity in values generally causes discomfort or awkwardness in social situations. Although close friends, family and loved ones can often have one or two stark contrasts in their values, this is made possible by a greater number of shared values, backgrounds and experiences that provide a framework of comfort and similarity. When building an intimate relationship, establishing shared values early on is key to long-term success. The dimensions that we consider as part of your Personal Values are Traditionalism, Spirituality, Family Goals and Altruism.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Family Goals: Your ideal mate shares your desires to start a new family and experience the joys of parenthood. She loves kids and expects that they will play a central role in her life.
Family Background: Your ideal mate has a good relationship with her family, but it's not perfect. They enjoy spending time together but do have occasional disagreements. She's understands that family dynamics can work even when they're not perfect.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Spirituality: Your ideal mate is someone who is probably either involved in a religious community or who has an individualistic spiritual life. She's the kind of person who finds herself drawn on occasion to faith communities. She might attend services but may not be an active member of a congregation.
Traditionalism: You'll be happiest with a woman who considers herself a good person: She has strong values and her moral beliefs are an important part of who she is. She probably believes that values related to religion, country and family provide important general guidelines for life.
Altruism: Your ideal mate is someone who cares about the needy. She believes society is dependent on everyone to solve problems, so she turns her convictions into action. Perhaps she volunteers at the local soup kitchen or organizes a recycling or clothing drive. She's known for her willingness to do whatever she can to assist others.